Years ago I remember learning how they teach Shamu, the great white whale at Sea World, to jump over that 25 foot rope. They begin with the rope at the bottom of the pool and every time Shamu swims over the rope, Shamu gets fish and pats on the back (or whatever it is that makes great white whales feel rewarded). Then, once the trainers know that Shamu has internalized that it gets rewarded when it swims over the rope... they raise the rope. They do this over and over again until, eventually, Shamu is jumping 25 feet into the air!
I've been visiting precious relatives for the upcoming American holiday, Thanksgiving (I call it Gratitude Day). As we've moved through our visit, I've realized all the "little things" my sweet family has done to make our visit smooth, extra comfortable, and super special. Even seeing the obvious efforts they have made—and no doubt, many that I’m not even aware of. I've tried to be mindful of the things I appreciate and say them out loud, while also being aware there has been far more effort on their behalf for me to be able to acknowledge it all.
In Self-Aware Leadership, we strive to notice how we are showing up. This includes being aware of how often we exercise the muscle of gratitude and appreciation for those on our team and making sure we notice the strengths and uniquenesses each of our team members bring to the table. Oftentimes, spirits are lifted, morale is renewed, and passion is re-ignited when we pause to notice the efforts, attempts, and successes of those on our team.
I know I'm re-energized by knowing we have such a strong community who strive to be the best version of themselves. I appreciate your willingness to be open to new ideas, reflect, and grow. I appreciate your desire to be the best human you can be with and for others, and to make your corner of the world a better, more light-filled space. I appreciate your willingness to take risks, make mistakes, and try again - all because of your commitment to self-growth. YOU are remarkable and YOU make a difference!
Pause and reflect: Have you taken time to acknowledge what you appreciate about your team? Have you taken steps to notice the small successes (swimming over the rope), or do you accidentally wait for the big successes (25 foot wins) before you celebrate the efforts? It doesn't have to be a big deal, a little acknowledgement goes a long way!
Things to Consider:
Write a brief handwritten note to your team members about what you see as their strengths.
At the next team meeting, include an activity where the team can acknowledge appreciations or strengths of each other.
Open your next 1:1 meeting with something about what that team member brings to the table and why this specifically adds value to the team/project.
In our professional and personal lives, most people take pride in their work and the effort they put into accomplishing tasks. When we notice and are appreciative about their unique contributions, it fans their flames of purpose, value, and contribution.
In the spirit of Gratitude Day, slow down, take notice, and let someone know WHAT you appreciate about them. I'll say it again, a little acknowledgement goes a long way! :)
YOU MATTER!